Love, in all its forms is the best gift. The giving of it enriches the lives of both the giver and the receiver. So why is it that there are so many people in this world with no love in their lives? Some people will say that they are too picky or that they haven’t found the right person yet. Others complain about their own inadequacies, thus being undeserving of love. The reality is, that these people are all trying to rationalize a basic fear that we all share. The fear of rejection. We fear that by showing our love, we will risk a painful ego-damaging denial. Love is not something that needs to be returned. It is not something that can be refused. If love exists, then it exists. There is no reason to believe that we are only good people if those we love also love us back. The trouble is that most of us have been practicing holding our love back for so long, that we believe there will be one person out there that we can love and so that person had better love us, or we will be forever unloved. If we were to change our thinking, we might see the lie that we have been chained to for so long. Look around you and see all of the people in your life worthyof love. You should be free to care for these people. Show your feelings through words and actions. Perhaps, through your courage, they will find the strength within themselves to escape their own cage. But even if they don’t, you will feel free. You will have let go of one of life’s most powerful fears and it will make you free.
I agree that people should be more loving. But I want to redefine what you call love into other words like caring, compassion, charity, brotherly love. I don't think people fear loving people in those ways.
For me the fear, the worry, the doubts all come about because you love someone that can or will never love you as much as you them...in all those ways mentioned above, but adding affection and physical love into the mix. It is at that point, when the love isn't matched, that you become insecure, vulnerable and fearful. People fear never being loved back as hard as they love.
I agree that people should be more loving. But I want to redefine what you call love into other words like caring, compassion, charity, brotherly love. I don't think people fear loving people in those ways.
ReplyDeleteFor me the fear, the worry, the doubts all come about because you love someone that can or will never love you as much as you them...in all those ways mentioned above, but adding affection and physical love into the mix. It is at that point, when the love isn't matched, that you become insecure, vulnerable and fearful. People fear never being loved back as hard as they love.
That's my 2 cents.